On maintaining marital harmony when moving 5000 miles away
Any day now, offers are going to come out for the July class. At 23/236 on the register, I’d say my shot at a July offer is about 50/50 right now. It’s high enough to keep the ants in my pants, but low enough that I feel comfortable slacking on starting our household inventory.
Bertrand and I have started many conversations about what could happen should we need to pack up and move back to the States this summer. They usually go something like this:
Brave starter of the conversation: So if we have to move in July or September, we should probably start figuring out what we’re going to toss.
If it’s my turn to answer, I say: Everything. Let’s go with just a UAB and buy nice new stuff in the States.
If it’s Bertrand’s turn to answer, he says: Nothing. You never know when you might need something, and we’ll be mad if we toss something important.
Needy attention seeking cat: MMEEEEOOOWWRRRAAARRRRRRR.
The discussion turns heated, and the brave starter of the conversation then says something like: It’s just stuff! None of it is worth getting worked up about. I love you, you love me. Let’s hug and talk about something else. Let’s figure out what we’re going to do about your/my [Bertrand’s] family. And what the hell is wrong with the cat?
If it’s my turn to answer, I roll my eyes and say: GRAR [expletives and issues removed to protect the innocent] GRAR. And by the way, have you finished sorting out [different family issues of choice], because once you leave nobody else is going to be around to take care of it?
If it’s Bertrand’s turn to answer, he gets really quiet and worried and asks: What are they ever going to do without me?
Needy attenion seeking cat: MEOW! MEOW!
At some point, I get sassy and point out that everyone was worried when his older brother left for France, and look! Everybody’s fine. And Bertrand gets mad. And then the brave starter of the conversation then says something like: I love you, you love me. Let’s hug and talk about something else.
The other person: What’s for dinner?
The current list of things we are avoiding talking about:
- Dealing w/ Bertrand’s family once we’ve announced the move
- Dealing w/ Bertrand’s family once we’re back in the States
- Dealing w/ how close my family will be once we’re back in the States (as Mom always said, it’s easy to love your relatives when they live
4 hours awayon the other side of the world)
- Finances once we’re back in the States
We have marital harmony in our household but no decision making what-so-ever. Sometimes I wonder how we were able to start and run a business together (hint: less harmony, more decision making). But we did, and a very successful one. If we got through that, we can get through anything. And believe you me, the stress of moving back to the States and starting A-100 is nothing compared to the stress that starting our consulting company put us through.