On motherhood, careers, and having it all

3 Responses

  1. J. says:

    I can’t speak for the foreign service. But I can say that in at least some corners of the NGO world males/men are neither blind to, nor unsympathetic towards, nor unwilling to engage on this issue.

    Keep looking! :)

  2. alex says:

    In my experience the problem is not being treated differently or being passed over for certain jobs or promotions because of pregnancy or parental status. The problem in my opinion is being treated exactly the same. What do I mean? In the private sector it’s really common to have the option to ease back to work part-time, or do some telecommuting, etc. In the Foreign Service, though, all that’s a no go. In theory this stuff is a possibility if you have a DC assignment, but I’ve heard that in practice it’s a bad idea and never works for a number of reasons you’ve probably heard too. And of course overseas, where we spend most of our time, there’s no flexibility with schedules and such. All the newish FSO moms I know are barely staying afloat, and I doubt everyone will stay with State for the long haul for this reason. As for me, I’m trying! Time will tell… =)

  3. angelica says:

    I’m glad this post spoke to you. I think employers are coming around, many times the options are in place, but like alex says, they are not *really*available…. or part time translates into “do the same for less money in less time” … I think we just need to keep pushing and imposing changes. I know a few women that excel at their work and can now answer to job offers with “I’m willing to do it but only if I can work from home” or “part time”. Admittedly these women were already positioned when they had their kids (so the consultant was probably right), but I’ve also had people (not institutions) be sympathetic and helpful in helping me juggle it all …

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